Step By Step Pickup Women Guide
Mystery's M3 pick-up model has everything you have to know about the fundamentals of attraction. Attraction can in fact be broken down like a scientific experiment. The M3 pick-up model, like the scientific method, is a method to resolve a problem, and what greater problem is there than how you can attract girls? Nevertheless, lots of men might take a look at that and be like in college chemistry: blank stares combined with a bit of disgust and fear. For those of you discouraged by the technical aspect of the M3 model, the following is the streamlined variation, the step by step pick-up guide for dummies.
The streamlined variation of seducing girls is essentially broken down into 3 steps:
Simplifying everything to three steps makes it a lot easier to learn, memorize, and identify what phase you are in so you can escalate appropriately. Essentially, it works like this: first you approach the target and get in with an opening so the girl ends up being interested to the things you have to say. Then you need to get the girl attracted to you, or at the minimum, interested. After the girl is interested, you need to hook and reel her in by establishing a connection.
Approaching a random girl is possibly one of the most daunting things you can do. There is no magic charm to get over this fear. Like any fear, you need to face it then conquer it. The very best method to conquer fear of approaching girls and the consequent approach anxiety is to do it over and over till you get desensitized to it. Let's get this straight: you WILL crash, burn and get turned down lots of times when you first start out. If this stops you from approaching girls, you ought to quit now and become a monk. Nevertheless, as you acquire painful experience, rejection will get easier to deal with, if not less painful, till the day comes when you barely get shot down at all. Guidelines to follow when approaching girls:
1) Follow the three second rule. Approach her within three seconds of seeing her.
2) Never ever open with a apology or filler like, "Excuse me," "I'm sorry but," "I couldn't help noticing," "I need to tell you," "If you're not too busy." These make you seem unconfident and like a beggar.
3) Never, ever give her a compliment, particularly if she's pretty. You'll only be among the many dull dorks that month that told her how attractive she is and give her even more power.
4) Do not buy her a drink or whatever else to get her attention. You cannot buy her interest. Buying her things serves to show her that you're so pitiful, you need to try and buy her attention.
5) Do not come off as too desperate, eager, or nervous. Girls are professionals in body language and what is more unappealing than a desperate man eager to do anything she wants ?
If you have successfully approached a girl and she is actually ready and willing to hear just what you want to say, you just have an instant to sell yourself. Consider this phase as the "elevator pitch." You are in an elevator with Bill Gates and you have till the duration of the elevator ride to pitch him your incredible business concept and get him interested in you. The attraction phase of seducing girls is precisely like that. You have a couple of minutes to sell yourself and get her interest before she dismisses you as not being interesting.
Girls are attracted to your perceived value, and to get her interest, your perceived value needs to equal or exceed her own value. There are 2 methods to do this. You can either raise your value or you can decrease her value. Raising your value is done with a pick-up artist technique called DHV (demonstrate high value) and decreasing her value is done with the pick-up technique called negging.
1) Demonstrating high value (DHV)
DHV means that you are doing something or showing her that you deserve her attraction and interest and can supply her with something of value. She needs to feel that you give value to her so is worth her time. This is done with pick-up artist tricks, gimmicks, routines, or simply just exhibiting a sense of value like the powerful, rich men naturally do.
Negging is a kind of fun antithesis to complimenting. The objective is to tease her playfully so that her value decreases a bit. A neg must never ever come off as an insult but more of a tease to produce a response from the girl. Attractive girls particularly have such high value that unless you can pull off an exceptionally high value to match hers, it is best to decrease her value a little by using negs. Some effective negging are:
"You like shopping for outfits at Walmart, huh ?"
"Isn't that handbag last year's model?"
"Nice hairstyle, very 80's."
"You shouldn't be drinking any more beer, you're already not making any sense."
"I know a really inexpensive health club you may like."
"You're like a little sister, cute but irritating."
Making a connect is the lengthiest and most pleasurable stage in a successful pick-up. When you've created mutual attraction and the difficult part's over, it's simply a matter of learning more about each other. You just chat, appreciate each others' company, and make mental and physical connections. This is the phase where you also intensify your kino (physical contact). Making a connect is mainly done by having a deep conversation and creating similar threads. You can discuss your vulnerabilities and childhood experiences here also to really develop a deep connection.
You can check out and try out the tricks and routines to create emotional connections with a girl, but absolutely nothing works better than having an authentic conversation and learning about each other through things you share.